This man's torment, is the reason you "Don't stay mad" or "Don't go to bed angry".

I'm sure you've heard those words before, I know that I have wished that I had remembered to say "I love you", or had one more hug, shared one more kiss on more than one occasion in my lifetime, What about you?.

All the lives lost from the attacks on September 11th, 2001 brought the same kind of misery, regret and frustration.

I can't help but imagine how different this world would be if we lived our lives, every day, like we might not have a chance to see each other again; share a few more laughs; or say the words and thoughts we really feel.

Every moment is precious, squeeze out every ounce of living, loving and laughing that it can offer you. Never let yourself to be idle or bored, there are to many wonderful things we could be allowing ourselves to enjoy with the people we know and love and those who we will come to know and care about.

New York Daily News -

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Lidle dad's tearful regret

By MICHELLE CARUSO in Glendora, Calif.and CORKY SIEMASZKO in New York

DAILY NEWS STAFF WRITERS

Saturday, October 14th, 2006

Wracked by regret, Cory Lidle's father recalled yesterday how he turned down the doomed Yankee's invitation to come watch him pitch against the Detroit Tigers in the playoffs.
"'Son, I think you'll get by them,'" a weeping Douglas Lidle remembered telling his son in what turned out to be their last conversation.

But it was not to be. Three days after the Yankees fell to the Tigers, Lidle and his flight instructor perished when their plane crashed into a Manhattan skyscaper.

"Not being able to hold him, that will be the hardest part," said Douglas Lidle, 53. Lidle's body, which was so battered he had to be identified through dental records, is expected to be flown home today to California - courtesy of the Yankees and Major League Baseball.

"Mom, I'm so alone," Lidle's widow, Melanie, told her mother, Mary Varela, after the strain of planning her husband's funeral got to her. "I feel so alone."

Lidle's 6-year-old son, Christopher, who also had maintained remarkable composure, fell apart when he saw his dad's fraternal twin brother, Kevin. "I look like Cory, and Christopher said, 'Hi Uncle Kevin,'" said Kevin Lidle, 34. "And then a couple minutes later it hit him. And he had a little tear.'"
"He kind of went, 'Oh,' and then he realized," Varela added. "The kid's been sweeping it under the rug. He's tough like his father. He doesn't like drama."

Douglas Lidle couldn't hold back the tears as he recalled his final words with his son.
"'Hey, man, you should come out for the ALDS,'" Lidle said, referring to the American League Division Series. "'You never know if that will be our season. That could be the end ....'"

But the grieving dad said he told his son the Yankees would make it to the World Series and that he'd already ordered tickets and made hotel reservations in New York.

Wearing the Yankee Division Series cap his brother had given him, Kevin Lidle said that after learning of the plane crash, "I thought to myself, 'Maybe he wasn't flying in that plane.' I thought he might have survived."

"The last time I saw him was in Tampa when the Yankees played the Devil Rays [three weeks ago]," he said. "We went and ate dinner at the St. Pete Ale House and when it was over we shook hands and gave each other a half-hug like we always do."

Both father and son said they were unaware that Lidle and flight instructor Tyler Stanger had planned to fly over New York in Lidle's new single-engine plane. They just knew their first stop on the way back to California was Nashville.

"He was probably looking forward to getting home after a very long season," Kevin Lidle said. "As far as we know, he was just on his way home."

Five residents of the Belaire building on E. 72nd St. were hurt but nobody in the building was killed when Lidle's Cirrus SR20 plowed into the north side of the condominium and briefly stoked fears of another Sept. 11-type attack.

The National Transportation Safety Board is investigating the tragic crash, but investigators still are not certain whether Lidle, a novice pilot, or Stanger, who had only flown in New York once, was at the controls.

That could be crucial to the Lidle family. If he was flying the Cirrus SR20, his kin would not be eligible for a $1.5 million insurance payment from baseball's benefit plan, which excludes "any incident related to travel in an aircraft ... while acting in any capacity other than as a passenger."
Kevin Lidle said right now the most important thing is that his brother is "remembered the way he really was."

"He was the kind of guy where if you were walking down the street he'd never say, 'I'm a Yankee,'" he said. "He was not one to brag about where he'd been or what he'd done. He loved to laugh. He had a great sense of humor, sometimes dry."

With Pete Donohue, Alison Gendar, Jordan Lite and Peter Kadushin